Monday, August 20, 2012

It's Time To Declare Your Victory!

Oh, how I have missed blogging! Well, I'm back on it :)


E A C H of us have gone through a storm. E A C H of us have come to point in our lives when we felt as if we weren't going to make it. E A C H of us has had a dream, but didn't know how to act on it. How did I make it? I declared my Victory through Jesus.

I am a strong believer that God has the ability to get us through the toughest of situations. Why? Well, He already knows what is to come and how to fix it. John 14:14 says that if we ask in HIS name, it SHALL be done. In conclusion? Speak it, believe it...its done! That's the amazing thing about God. He's faithful, even when we aren't. He loves us, even when we don't deserve it. He cares, even if we happen to "forget" about Him. 

As most of you know, I have been a pageant participant for the past 10 years. By the grace of God, I have been able to acquire titles locally, state-wide, and nationally. I am currently Miss Michigan 2012 under the National American Miss pageant system and National Sparkle Success 2012 under the Sparkle Success pageant system. I am P R O U D to say that through all of my years in the pageant world, I have NEVER had a pageant coach or a professional make-up/hair artist. Between myself, my mom, and dad, we make the dream team. Even with my wardrobe, my parents and I agree on. 

After an appearance as 2012 National Sparkle Success(:

After our big weekend: My little Sister Queen, Selia & I!

Why did I tell you all of this? Well, when I decide to participate in a pageant, I DECLARE victory in HIS name. When I decide on a dress to wear, or what type of hairstyle to rock, I DECLARE success. I ask in HIS name that I come out with a victory. Now to make it clear, I am NOT conceited in any way, shape, or form. It's just I know for a fact what I want, and I know in return of declaring, I MUST work. 

James 2:26 says, "For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also." You could have ALL of the faith in the World, but if you do nothing towards your goal, nothing will happen!

For example, after I declare victory, I TRAIN with my mom DAY AND NIGHT for HOURS. I memorize speeches, practice my runway walk, workout, do run throughs, perform mock interviews...anything and everything I would perform at the pageant, I practice in advance. Thing is, I believe that I CAN, so I DO.


My 2012 Sister Queens!

The same way I have done (and will continue to do), is the same way YOU CAN. Whether it be for a new job or internship, or to pass a big exam, or to launch a new business...I want you to know that you WILL accomplish ALL, if you are willing to WORK. 

It's Time To DECLARE Your Victory!

Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are worth it, that you will succeed, that you will accomplish all, that you ARE a winner, that you are amazing, & that you will make it!! Encourage yourself and stand strong on God's Promises :) Believe me when I say, not only does He want you to succeed, but He KNOWS you can make it! Even if it doesn't work out the first time, step out on faith, never back down, & re-focus. 

I know you are a winner. Believe in YOU, as God believes in YOU.


God Bless,
Tori(:


[P.S.] If you are interested in the pageant systems I have participated in/mentioned and have any questions, I would be more than happy to answer them! :)

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Bullying is more than an 8 letter word...

Her name was Phoebe Prince. She lived an amazing life in Ireland with her parents and four siblings until they decided to move to the United States, South Hadley, Massachusetts, to be exact. Her first few weeks at her new high school were great until the other students started to pick on her. Talk about her. Torment her. Bash her mentally. Break her down. Call her names -- Just because she was different. At the age of 15, Phoebe couldn't take it anymore and hung herself. She died at the tender age of 15 on January 14, 2010.


According to the American Justice Department, 1 out of 4 children are bullied on a daily basis, let it be mentally, physically, verbally, or emotionally. These acts can lead to depression, anxiety, health complaints, decreased academic achievement, and death. Although most take this issue lightly, I feel we must be bold and expose the dangers associated with it as our children are in danger.


October is National Bullying Prevention Month so last year, I went to the local high school and middle school and provided a presentation that changed the perspective of bullying for the students. At the conclusion, each student signed a vow that stated that they would not engage in bullying, nor would they ignore the act, but they will take a stand.


I plan on continuing to unveil this top issue because so many lives are at stake. Over the last couple of months, I have come across articles, videos, and blogs that speak on bullying, but focusing on elementary schools. I did not think, until then, about the "babies," as elementary school is where the bullying begins: at a young age. This is my next destination. 


Let us work together and STOP the act of BULLYING. If you see it happening ANYWHERE, step up and make a difference and/or report it to the proper authorities. For more statistics, information, and to find out how you can help, visit http://www.stopbullying.gov/


God Bless,
Tori(:

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Have a job interview next week? No problem!

Greetings to all!

Do you happen to have an interview coming up? Or, are you in the process of looking for a job? Great! I have some tips that will help you put you on top! 

 First, there's the resume. Your resume will tell employers who you are, what you are looking for employment wise, your past/current education, your skills, qualifications, affiliations, as well as basic information, such as your address. Believe it or not, but resumes are very powerful because it is given one chance to impress or...be "filed" (aka: trash can). So due to this, make sure it is very neat, clear, and straight to the point! If you don't have any past jobs to list, put some volunteering events you've done, along with the organization and amount of time served. Your resume should be no longer than one page, BIG RULE. Think about it, would YOU want to read a resume that is 4 pages long...No, I didn't think so. Keep it concise and to the point. If you are still confused on how to begin, go to Google and type in "Resume Examples," or "How to write a resume." Trust me, it will help you! However, please don't fall into the trap of "purchasing" a resume online, you can do it! I believe in you! Even if the employer does not ask for your resume when you go in store to apply, STILL give it to them in addition to the application. If you are applying online, most places will let you upload your resume right from your computer...always do!


So! You received a phone call from one of the employers, great! When you answer the call, sound professional, yet slightly excited. You don't want to sound boring, or like you are about to die...okay, bad example. BUT, you catch my drift. Sound interested in what the manager is saying to you! Once they communicate to you that they would like you to come in for an interview and they tell you the date and time, MAKE SURE you write it down! In your excitement, you would hate to hang up, and then forget what they said. Yes, major bummer. So to avoid that, just write the info down somewhere. In addition, ask for their name, if they haven't told you already. Its always nice for when you come to the interview, when you ask for that particular person, or you mention their name in registration. For example, let's say the manager I speak to name is Jane. I would go to the interview ON TIME, and say "Good afternoon, my name is Victoria Mangham and I was called for an interview today with Jane?" Trust me, it works! It shows you care. 

The next step is to RESEARCH. Yes, I said it. Research. You must have knowledge on the company you have an interview for. This applies even if you have been to that place a thousand times, you can always learn something new! What I mean by research is to look up what the company sells, the area they serve, what is the age range of their customers, maybe even learn who the parent companies are. You never know what they will ask you at the interview, so its better to be safe than sorry...so be prepared!

ATTIRE. Attire is very important! What you wear to your interview is a part of your first impression on the employer. This applies even if you are being interviewed at Dollar Tree, Walmart, even CVS, DRESS PROFESSIONAL. Yes, professional. When you are dressed for success, it says something about you as an individual; that you care enough about this potential job that you woke up 2 hours ahead of time to dress in a suit & tie (for my gentlemen) or a suit & heels (for my ladies). Now, for my women: hosiery is important as well. If you wear a skirt or pants, hosiery gives you a smooth line underneath and keeps you un-bulky...if that's a word. I don't think it is, but you catch my drift (: What I usually wear to interviews are either a skirt suit with a blouse or a pant and blouse get-up. You want to make sure you do not show cleavage, or thighs during your interview: IMPROPER. They will probably not take you seriously. Heels always give ladies amazing posture, but if you're not into that type of thing, flats are just fine! No gym shoes, flip flops, or sandals. Just no. For my gentlemen, same rules apply. A suit is always nice, but just a shirt, tie, and pants will work. You are applying for a job, employment, an occupation, a position...treat it as such.


Your ARRIVAL. On time means to be early. Being on time means you are late. Please arrive to your interview at least ten minutes ahead of start time. It may help to do a "practice run," that is to time how long it will take you to drive, park, and walk to the building. Leave your phone in the car, and ladies, be careful of how big your handbag is. You don't want that to distract. Once you arrive, SMILE. Geesh guys, smile! Look interested. Once you meet the employer, manager, or boss, if they offer to shake your hand, do so. Nice and firm. Yes ladies, you too. Now, I do not mean squeeze the living daylight of out them. I mean give a FIRM handshake, show slight authority. Don't run away with it. So yes, smile, handshake. Once you sit down, make sure you are sitting upright and not slouched! You are still being evaluated. Eye contact, small gestures are key. Conversation is key. Try to avoid saying "Ummm..." & "Well..." Answer each question with confidence, staying focused. Usually, at the conclusion of the interview, they will ask you if you have any questions...always have AT LEAST one question to ask them, even if you already know the answer. Sample questions are: "How long does training take in this position?" "What do you like best working for this company?" "What does it take to become successful in this position?" ...the question is up to you. At the conclusion, one more handshake and a confident smile will get you out of there. 

It will take approximately 2 days to a week for the employer to contact you about the position if they chose you. Most times, they will not communicate with you if you did not get the job *sad music* BUT if you do receive that phone call of success, you will feel like the baby to the right...like "YES. I did it. Watch out now." OR you will be like me, running through the house, screaming, singing, dancing, jumping, and doing push ups. Either victory reaction is acceptable. If you do not get the job, PLEASE do not become discouraged. TRY AGAIN. Look for more job opportunities and apply, apply, apply! In summer 2011, I applied to 20+ places, only to receive 3 phone calls for separate interviews, in which only ONE asked me to work for them. NEVER GIVE UP! Keep going and keep the faith!

Some amazing places for job searches: 


This has to be my longest post ever. Wow. But, I hope that I helped you all that are on the search or are preparing for an interview soon. Stay confident, be you, and have fun! If you have any questions, I would be happy to answer them! 

God Bless,
Tori :)

Monday, January 9, 2012

Let's Go! Its 2012 (:

Okay. I lied. I promised a November Wishlist and time just ran away from me! We are in 2012, in the month of January! So exciting, right!? Well, update! I will continue to stay home another semester going to Schoolcraft College to finish up my core classes; which is very smart, so that when I go back to other home, Ball State University, I can jump right into my major/minor classes! My life has not stopped since my last post; my family is in the process of moving, my brother Victor has been getting ready for his high school graduation, and I have been training for a National Pageant that is next month! I have been trying so hard to work out everyday, but with my schedule, it is soooo difficult :/ However, I have my mom that has been constantly pushing me to get moving! Well my loves, as it is 2012, I want to tell you all to GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT! No is never an answer when there is a will to succeed! If you have the determination, the drive, and crazy faith in yourself, YOU CAN DO IT! So go! This is a new day in a new year; its time for something NEW!

God Bless,
Tori :)

Monday, November 7, 2011

Whoaa! Where has the time gone!?

Hello my loves! Its been a longgg while since I have posted; everything has just been so busy! I have started my Fall Semester at Ball State as a sophomore (scary, I know) as an online student for now. I'm going back on campus for the Spring, which is in January. Some new things are happening as of now such as starting my OWN YouTube channel! Guess what the topics are....yep! You guessed it! Fashion, hairstyles, nail and skin care, I mean the whole 9 yards! As an aspiring Fashion Designer & Merchandiser, I thought it was time to tap into my interests and get things rolling! From this day forward, I will be going nonstop in everything I do. I plan to graduate on time and post graduation move to California or New York, which ever my career takes me. I'm entering my 20s next month (Yes, I knowww, scary!), so I decided it was time for me to become more serious about my aspirations. We have entered November so that means my next post will be my amazing monthly wishlist. I promise I will try to post more often and avoid these "months at a time" gaps. Keep your head up and that incredible smile on your face!


God Bless,
Tori xoxo (:

Monday, August 8, 2011

Shopping. My Weakness.

I am obsessed with shopping. Yep, I said it! I probably need to go to rehab (: Anywho, I was browsing the web for some new fashions I could possibly add to my wardrobe this coming year. Hmm...my birthday is in a few months!

God Bless,
Tori xoxo (:

In love with this oversized shirt from Forever 21. On sale for $9.
Oversized Knit Pullover. Forever 21. $14.
Gray is the new black. Old Navy at $45.
One Word: Adorable (: Charlotte Russe on sale for $15.
I have ALWAYS wanted a blazer. Wet Seal for only $25!
In turn, I have ALWAYS wanted Oxford Booties! $27 at Forever 21 (:
Yesss. I want these sparkly TOMS so bad. Around $50.

My August Wishlist.

As school is right around the corner, this month's wishlist will be things that I want for this upcoming school year! As this is my sophomore year at Ball State University, I have most of everything I "need," so therefore this year will mostly be about what I "want." Now, don't get me wrong, I am always about saving a dollar or two, EVEN IF I'm a shopaholic (: Take a look, you may want a few things yourself! 

God Bless,
Tori xoxo 

Eiffel Tower Wall Decal from Target. $14.99. Super Adorable (:


I am IN LOVE with anything Cookie Monster, so this backpack from Walmart is def on my list. Around $20.

   


This comforter set: GORGEOUS. Walmart. Around $33.00
Bissell 3-in-1 Vacuum in Pink. Walmart. $14.99
Perfect for when my floors get sticky. Shark Steam Mop from Walmart. Around $50.
Not pink OR purple, but this Canon PowerShot recieved rave reviews. Amazon. Around $59.
Saucer chair I have ALWAYS wanted. Walmart. Around $18.